Your Wedding Ceremony With Your Perfect Wedding Cake

Cutting your cake has always been understood as something that you do during the wedding reception. Over time, the meaning has disappeared, and cake cutting has become simply one more wedding activity on the "must accomplish" check-off list.

These days most brides and grooms are being circumspect and trading small bite size pieces of cake with one another. Hallelujah! The horrendous smear cake all over your beloved's face is a throw back to a time when women were chattel and this was seen as the last act she could take as a free woman. (women whose dowers had been paid, but the deal not yet consummated, so to speak, were considered women responsible for themselves.) So consider that before you consider wiping cake all over your partner's face. You might also consider how carefully your beloved dressed to look wonderful for you on this momentous occasion and decide whether you want to be that disrespectful to the person with whom you're embarking on a lifetime of relationship. What kind of start do you want to your marriage?

The notion behind the wedding cake is that the first food you feed one another at your wedding should be sweet. The food should be sweet so that the promises which come out of your mouths may be sweet. This ceremony should be reflected in your vows: Why not promise to share life's sweetness with one another?

• Do the ceremony before your vows and then promise to nurture one another with sweetness.
• You may not want to cut your wedding cake at the ceremony (particularly if the reception is at a different venue) but ask your baker to make a small cake (as small as a cupcake) for you to share at your wedding.
• Acknowledge that marriage and the individuals who are in the marriage need sustenance.
• Consider preceding the cake ceremony with bread and wine (or whatever the grain and drink of your culture is). Before we eat cake we must eat that which nourishes us.
• Nurture one another with just a little sweetness.
• Promise to do that throughout your life together.

Then do it throughout your life together. Take time to do small, sweet things for one another. Sweet kisses, sweet foods, sweet time together. Do this and your marriage will flourish. And you will thrive!